How do I get my partner to use a condom?

It might feel awkward to talk about condoms, but doing it ahead of time can help you avoid having to have a conversation in the heat of the moment when you and your partner might be less clear-headed. It can also help to buy condoms yourself and have them available, so the logistics don’t become an issue. 

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If you’re stressed about the conversation, you can practice what you’re going to say ahead of time. You can always start by asking your partner how they feel about using condoms – you might find out that they’re already in agreement with your feelings. Either way, explain why it’s important to you, like reducing the risk of unintended pregnancy and STDs. 

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If your partner doesn’t want to wear a condom, you can always offer to wear an internal (female) condom yourself. But if someone doesn’t respect your wishes to protect you and themselves, they probably aren’t the right partner; everyone deserves to have their health and well-being cared for. 

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Reviewed by Sara Levine, MD, MPH, FAAP, Medical Director of Adolescent Medicine